A Man is not a Financial plan! Learn to develop, build, create your own wealth. Growing up as a child I saw my father being a coward, drunk and squandering the family money. Causing my mother to “run away to foreign” to find work that paid American dollars so she could take care of her girls and that “worthless” piece of trash called a husband. Yes, for knowledge sake he is my biological father, but I have no respect for a man who leaves his financial responsibilities on a woman. My mother struggled for years providing for her girls and that man. Then one day he upped and divorced her and left her with nothing. We had two family houses, she lost both of them all because she was not able to fend on her own and she depended on a man for her financial plan.
As a child I made a promise to myself to not be like my mother. I grew up tough and I’ve been making my own money since I was 8yrs old. Yes, 8yrs old. I ran a business at 15yrs old with employees and everything, I put myself through University working 3-jobs, then I got my own apartment paying my own Rent. Sent myself to various countries around the World all on my dime. The ONLY thing a man has ever paid for me was dinner when we go on a date. NOTHING in my house, closet or overall life is or was paid for by a man. There have been men who couldn’t stand my financial independence. They were shown the door. (Don’t let the door hit you where the Good Lord split ya.)
On top of Financial Independence, women you need to be Emotionally Independent. Because if you are emotionally dependent, a man can spin you everyway till Sunday and then walk away leaving you an emotional mess and then you end up messing up your own Financial Independence. Now you find yourself drowning in debt because you had depended on a man emotionally. It will be hell digging yourself out of that black hole. My Grandaunt always told me never let a man drive you crazy because he can than manipulate you emotionally and then leave you and your life in ruins. Now that I’m an Adult I fully understand what she meant. I wish she had explained it more, but I guess there are some things that you need to experience for yourself in order to get and learn the lessons. There are some men that are so cruel. They cannot stand to see your independence, whether financially or emotionally, so they need to break you down. They bide their time waiting for the Grand moment.
They will wait until you are vulnerable, you are in deep emotional pain and then they swoop in for the kill. They use your situation to pretend that they are interested in you for a relationship, they want something deeper with you. They know that because of what you are going through you want the comfort and support and you won’t have the strength to push them away or to walk away from them. They are sick and twisted! All because you refused to depend on them and chase them when you were stronger.
There are a lot of men who can’t believe there are women who are not desperate for a man and a relationship. They grew up with faulty programming just like some women. And they also know that if you were not in a vulnerable position you would have had no need for them in your life and they would not have gotten the time of day from you. Good lord, they can’t stand the rejection. Their poor ego’s. And if they are seeing that they can’t get to you, then they manipulate women to come after you because he knows that “those” women will be ready for a fight if they were to believe that a woman is trying to steal him. Then when he sees that he has broken you down and have left you an emotional mess, he then walks away. His Job is done!! Yes, there are men that evil!!
That is just one example of why it is important to have Emotional Independence. Now of course if you have suffered a painful loss of a loved you won’t have the strength to do anything and you wouldn’t be expecting someone, especially a man to take advantage of the situation. The pain can be excruciating and it may take awhile, but you will heal and there will come a time when there is no more pain. You can kick that person to the ends of the earth and don’t look back. Now you are going to be amazed at how your life will open up and you begin to soar. You are now FREE!!
Women, you can create your own Financial Plan, but it is nothing if you are not emotionally independent. Because all your financial plan will be for nought if a man twists you up emotionally.